Bay Area Couples Training Institute: Nurturing Healthy Relationships Since 1986
Skills Toolbox Workshop for CouplesWarm Greetings: There’s no question about it folks, taking care of a couple relationship or marriage can be difficult, challenging & tough-going. Some relationships just never make it. But many more could be improved and transformed in powerful ways… What about yours? Do you find yourselves…
There’s no doubt, we live having our relationships in a stressful and high-pressured world, starved of time as the pace of our lives accelerate. Pressures and stressors which all too often sap our energy and passion, leaving us feeling exhausted with little to no fuel for attending to each other. This becomes all the more difficult when there are children needing our attention and time. Or work obligations or daily life stressors sapping our energy. Often, there seems to be no time for our partners, and the relationship, let alone us If any of this sounds familiar, you will be interested in our workshop. Whether you are in new relationship, engaged to be married, been together a while, or in your second or third marriage – your relationship will be energized and revitalized by learning powerful, cutting edge, proven relationship techniques in my workshop. I call it …
Successful relationships really depend on using skills & techniques which are surprisingly easy to learn. I want to share with you cutting-edge, proven techniques, which will change the way in which you talk and relate to each other. The workshop provides powerful, effective ways of making your relationship work, especially for couples that feel that there isn’t enough time for one another or the relationship. Most importantly, these skills and techniques can be learned quite easily.
The workshop will walk you through, step by step, as you learn the latest techniques. You will be able to start using the skills immediately on your own. With a week between meetings, you are able to learn at a comfortable pace. Most important, you have the time to digest and practice techniques in day-to-day situations.
Because privacy is respected throughout the workshop, you will never be pressured to share outside your comfort zone. From the very beginning you will start using proven techniques, which will help heal, and repair relationship hurt. You will also learn to develop alternatives to painful struggles – new ways of approaching differences and conflict, which actually bring you closer to each other.
You will learn techniques that go way beyond simply solving problems. Instead you will learn fundamentally different ways of approaching conflict and working with stress. By using techniques that focus on talking constructively, assertively and from your heart you will really change the atmosphere – especially when dealing with difficult conversations.
By using these techniques you will notice a profound change in the quality and feel to your relationship. For one, you will both avoid the toxic traps, which have kept your relationship in suffocating, exhausting, and painful conflict-producing patterns. What’s more, you’ll find that these approaches are simply essential for invigorating and transforming how you connect with each other, making room for a new, refreshing, friendship-nurturing relationship.
“We really learned to treat each other with respect. Also started showing our caring for each other again…it had been a long time. I wish we hadn’t waited so long to learn these techniques”. “We were ready to throw in the towel. Seriously. Things were bad. These skills are easy to learn and sure, they take some practice. But they really work… we just don’t argue like we used to. It’s a much better atmosphere. We’re friends again.” “It definitely brought us closer again. I mean, we were drifting apart big time. And we can talk to each other again; even about stuff we used to go ballistic over. I think he really listens to what I say now. That’s a big deal for us.”
Being willing to try something new means you have to be open to the possibility of doing things a little differently. Sometimes this takes some adjustment – like doing something new for the first time. The payoff: dramatically improving the way in which you deal with stress-producing, difficult and challenging conversations.
Listening to our own needs, wants and feelings can be really difficult when we are overwhelmed with stress or intense emotions – and close to impossible to hear our partner’s feelings or needs. In the workshop, you will benefit from techniques which support you clearly identifying as well as expressing your needs, values and feelings effectively – as well as tuning in to your partner – opening the doors to new ways of understanding and appreciating each other’s world.
We each are responsible for how we see things, for our thoughts, feelings as well as the behaviors we choose. This includes the way in which I choose to respond to situations. Most of the time, we share some responsibility for the messes we find ourselves in. Each of us carries part, maybe even a tiny part of what got us into the mess.
So we need ways to get out of suffocating and stifling ways of relating – learning techniques that take us beyond the limiting patterns of power struggles, feeling victimized, stuffing feelings inside and bringing out the battle artillery. Taking part in the workshop Making our relationship thrive again. Yes, even in a Time-Starved World makes it possible to learn techniques, which enable us to connect with each other in ways that build on some of that magical chemistry - that brought us together in the first place. About the workshop …
If you have questions or need more information, please give me a call at #415-468-2627 And I really hope to see you at the workshop and support you on your journey. Warmly, Allan |
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